Walking past a Hungry Jack’s yesterday I saw two large banners with RUOK? on them, hanging under the menu. It made me wonder if asked they asked if you wanted a large size meal for 50c more they would ask if you are ok? Of course, their involvement in the RUOK? campaign is to raise awareness and that’s a good thing.
My concern is that their involvement and the involvement of other businesses encourages us to ask the question of someone so we can tick the box that we have done our bit for another year. It makes it too easy. Asking how someone is is not always easy but it is vitally important.
Asking if someone is okay is not about ticking a box,. It is not about you. It is about asking the question and listening to the answer and engaging in a conversation. The question itself is about much more than RUOK?
I am concerned that the commercialisation of RUOK? as I’ve seen at Hungry Jack’s runs the risk of diluting the importance of asking a friend, partner, an employer or an employee if they are ok.
I get that having a day focuses attention and cuts through interns of media coverage. It also makes it a billboard you quickly pass and forget. This is where we as individuals and, more important, as employers need to play an on going role – checking in with those with whom we work and those we employ. We need to engage in conversations that go beyond the slogan RUOK? and ask how people are doing and engage with them beyond a question.
Talking with someone about how they are is a conversation, often several conversations. It is not one question and an answer. This is important way beyond one day a year. It is important way beyond standing in line to order a burger. While I applaud the Hungry jack’s promotion of the campaign, I wish it was not part of a menu. I wish their involvement was more about funding support and education in places where we can engage with people about mental health – like workplaces.
In our newsagency channel mental health is a serious issue for employees, customers and for newsagents. Indeed, many newsagents straggle daily because of personal and business circumstances. Maybe for us today ought to be a reminder to check in with a colleague to ask how they are doing and to listen to their response and explore any conversation that flows.